What is a decision?
There is only one mental activity that you can do that, in a thousandth of a second, will allow you to solve huge problems. It has the ability to improve almost any personal or professional situations that you may one day encounter… and it could literally propel you on the path to incredible success. We have a name for this magical mental activity… We call it: the decision.
Decisions or lack thereof are responsible for ending or launching a career. The people who have become very competent in decision-making without being influenced by the opinions of others, are the same people whose annual incomes are divided into the category of six and seven figures.
However It’s not just your income that’s affected by the decisions; your whole life is dominated by this power. The health of your body and mind, the well-being of your family, your social life, the type of relationships you develop… all depend on your ability to make informed decisions.
You would think that something as important as decision-making, such a large-scale power would be taught in all schools, but that is not the case. To intensify the problem, not only is decision-making absent from the curriculum of our educational institutions, until recently, but it is also absent in most business and resource training programs. human resources available.
Can we develop the ability to make a decision quickly?
So how should a person develop that mental capacity? Simply put, you have to learn how to do it yourself. However, I think it is important to understand that it is not difficult to learn how to make wise decisions. Armed with the right information and submitting to certain disciplines, you can become a very effective decision maker.
You can virtually eliminate conflict and confusion in your life by becoming competent in decision-making. It brings order to your mind and, of course, that order is then translated into your objective world into your results.
James Allen may have been thinking about the theme of the decision when he wrote:
We think in secret and it happens that our environment is only our own reflection.
Indeed no one can see you making decisions, but almost always we can see the results of your decisions. The person who fails to develop his or her ability to make decisions is condemned because indecision sets up internal conflicts that can, without escalation, degenerate into all-out, mental and emotional wars. Psychiatrists have a name to describe these internal wars, it is ambivalence. My Larousse Dictionary tells me that this ambivalence is the coexistence in one person of opposing feelings towards the same goal.
You don’t need a Ph.D. in psychiatry to understand that you’re going to have difficulties in your life by allowing your mind to stay in this ambivalent state regardless of the time period. The person who allows this ambivalence will become very discouraged and almost incapable of any kind of productive activity. It is obvious that anyone who is in such a mental state does not live, at best, simply exists. A decision, or a series of decisions, should change everything.
A very fundamental law of the universe is “to create or disintegrate.” Indecision leads to disintegration. How many times have you heard someone say, “I don’t know what to do.” How many times have you said to yourself, “What should I do?” Think of some of the conflicting feelings that almost everyone on this planet experiences from time to time.
LOVE THEM – LEAVE THEM
LEAVE – STAY
DO IT – DON’T DO IT
GOING BANKRUPT – NO, NOT DOING IT
GO TO WORK – WATCH TV
Everyone, on occasion, has experienced these feelings of ambivalence. If you think you’re in this pattern a lot and it happens to you a lot, then decide to stop right away. The cause of ambivalence is indecision, but we must keep in mind that truth is not always in the appearance of things.
Indecision is a cause of ambivalence, but it is only a secondary cause, it is not the primary cause. I have studied the behavior of people who have become very competent in making decisions for over a quarter of a century. They all have one thing in common. They have a very strong self-image, a high degree of self-esteem. They may be as different as night from day in many other respects, but all have absolute confidence.
Low self-esteem or lack of confidence is the real culprit. Decision-makers are not afraid to make a mistake. If and when they make a mistake in their decision, or fail in any way, they have the ability to ignore it. They will learn from experience, but will never fail.
Each decision-maker was fortunate to have been raised in an environment where decision-making was part of his education, or he developed that capacity himself later. He is aware that anyone who wishes to live a full life must understand that decision-making is something that cannot be avoided.
This is the cardinal principle of decision-making. Decide where you are with what you have. This is precisely why most people have never been able to master this important aspect of life. They allow their resources to dictate to them whether and when a decision will be made or can be made. When John Kennedy asked Werner Von Braun what it would take to build a rocket that would carry a man to the Moon and bring him safely back to earth, his answer was simple and straightforward. “The will to do it.” President Kennedy never asked if it was possible. He never asked if they could afford it or any of the thousand other questions, who would have … at that time … was fitting.
President Kennedy has made a decision … He said: we will put a man on the moon and bring him safely back to earth before the end of the decade. The fact that this had never happened before in human history was not even an option. He decided on the very moment with what he had. The goal was achieved in his mind the second he made the decision. The rest was only a matter of time … governed by natural law allowing the objective to manifest itself in a physical form so that the whole world can see it.
I was a few hours before in an office with three people. We were talking about buying shares in a company. I was selling, they were buying. After a reasonable amount of time, one of the partners asked me when I wanted an answer. I said, “Now.” I added, “You already know what you want to do.” There was some discussion about money. I pointed out that the money had nothing to do with their decision. Once you make the decision, you will find money, every time. If that’s the only benefit you’ll get when you read this particular message about decision making, then burn it in your mind. It will change your life. I then explained to two of the people I was negotiating with that I never let money interfere with my mind when making a decision. Whether I can afford it or not is never taken into consideration.
Whether I like it or not is the only consideration. You can afford anything, there is an infinite amount of money. All the money in the world is at your disposal when the decision is right. If you need money, you will attract it.
I am well aware that there are a number of people who will say that it is absurd. That they cannot decide to do something if they do not have all the resources they need. If that’s their way of thinking, that’s fine. I see this as a very restrictive way of thinking. In truth, this is probably not even the way of thinking … it rather resembles an opinion expressed, probably inherited from another older member of their family who has not even thought of anything.
Thinking or reflecting is very important. Decision-makers are great thinkers. Have you ever considered reviewing your thoughts? … how do they affect different aspects of your life? While this must be one of our most important considerations, for many people, it is not. However, there is a small group of selected people who try to control or direct their thoughts.
Anyone who has done a study on great thinkers, great decision-makers, great men of history, knows that very rarely do they agree on anything when it comes to the study of human life. However, there is one point on which all were in full and unanimous agreement and this is: “We become what we think about.”
What do you think? You and I need to understand that our thoughts ultimately control every decision we make. You are the sum of your thoughts. By taking charge of that same minute, you can guarantee yourself a good day. Refuse to let unhappy, negative people or circumstances affect you.
The biggest stumbling block you will encounter when making important decisions in your life is the circumstances. We let them turn away from our goal. Many dreams are shattered and goals are lost because of circumstances more than any other factor.
How many times have you caught yourself red-handed saying, “I want to do this, but I can’t because … All of the following “because” represents the circumstances. They can train you to take a detour into your life, but they should never be allowed to stop you from making important decisions.
Circumstances, I do.
Next time you hear someone say that they would like to go on holiday to Paris, or buy a particular car, but can’t afford it because they don’t have money, explain to them why they don’t need the money before his decision to go to Paris or buy a car is actually made. When the decision is made, he will always find a way to get the necessary amount. This has been verified every time.
Many misguided individuals try to do something once or twice and if they fail to do so, they feel in a sense of failure. Failing certainly does not mean that you are a failure, but if you give up it will most certainly and “giving up” is a decision. By following this form of reasoning, you could say that every time you make the decision to give up you make the decision to fail.
Every day in America, you hear about a baseball player who has signed a contract that will earn him a few million dollars a year. You should try to keep this in mind… this same player will miss the ball more often than he will score a goal.
Everyone remembers Babe Ruth who hit 714 home runs,but it was rarely mentioned that he failed 1,330 times.
Charles F. Kettering says, and I quote, “When you invent, if you miss 999 times but succeed once, you have succeeded.”
This is true for any activity you can imagine; the world will forget your failures in the face of the success of your achievements. Don’t worry if you fail or not, it will harden you and prepare you for your great victory. Winning is a decision.
Several years ago, Helen Keller was asked if she thought there was anything worse than being blind. She quickly replied that there was something much worse. She says, “The most pathetic person in the world is a person who has vision, but no vision.” I agree with Helen Keller.
At 91, J. C. Penny had been questioned about his eyesight. He replied that his eyesight was declining, but that his vision had never been better. It’s really great, isn’t it?
When a person has no vision of a better life, he automatically locks himself in a prison, he is limited to a life without hope. This often happens when a person repeatedly seriously trying to succeed and has found himself facing failures many times. Repeated failures can damage a person’s self-image and cause them to lose sight of their potential. That is why she makes the decision to give up and resign herself to her fate.
Take the first step in predicting your own prosperous future. Build a mental image how exactly you want to live. Make a firm decision to maintain this vision and positive ways to improve everything that will begin to emerge in your mind.
Many people get a good vision of how they would like to live, but because they don’t see how all this will be possible, they give up their vision. If they knew how they were going to get it or do it, they would have a plan, not a vision. There is no inspiration in a plan, but there is certainly inspiration in a vision. When you have vision, freeze it, frame it with a decision and don’t worry about how you’re going to achieve it or where the resources will come from. Be very enthusiastic about this decision … that’s what’s important. Refuse to worry about how this is going to happen.
We book in advance when we have to travel somewhere – it’s quite common. We do this in advance to eliminate any confusion or problems when the time comes to travel. We do the same thing and for the same reason, when we rent a car. Think about the problems you will eliminate by making all the decisions you know you have to make… well in advance. I will give you an excellent example, as I prepare this message during Ramadan, a time when all Muslims practice fasting. I was in an office yesterday in Kuala Lumpur and was asked if I wanted to drink a cup of tea or coffee. I said I would like a cup of tea. Then the question was asked to the lady near me who immediately answered … “No, I’m on an early one.” When asked, she did not have to decide whether she wanted something or not. Whether she was thirsty or not was not a consideration. His decision had already been made, and his decision made in advance was imbued with discipline.
Exactly the same concept works with people when they are on a diet in order to release weight. Their decisions are made in advance. If we offer them a big slice of chocolate cake, they won’t say: “Wow, he looks good … I wonder if I should.” Their decision is made in advance.
I made a decision a long time ago not to participate in discussions about why something cannot be done. The only compensation you will receive from participating in such discussions is to give energy to something you don’t want. I always find it amazing how many seemingly intelligent people persist in dragging you into negative brainstorming sessions. In one breath, these people will tell you that they seriously want to achieve a particular goal. And at the next breath, they’ll start telling you why they can’t. Think about how much fun they will enjoy by making a decision not to participate in this type of negative energy.
The humanist psychologist, Dr. Abraham Maslow, who has dedicated his life to studying self-actualised people, has made it very clear that we must follow our inner guide and not be influenced by the opinions of others or circumstances External. Maslow’s research has shown that decision-makers in life have a number of things in common, and most importantly, that they work and feel useful and important. They found pleasure at work, and there was little difference between working and playing. Dr. Maslow says that to self-actualize, you don’t just have to do the work you consider important, but you have to do it well and enjoy it.
Dr. Maslow found that these superior performers had values, these qualities in their personality that they considered useful and important. Their values are not imposed by society, parents or other people in their lives. They make their own decisions. They love their work, they choose and develop their own values.
Your life is important and, at its best, life is short. You have the opportunity to do what you choose, and to do it well. But, you have to make decisions and when the time to make a decision comes, you have to make your decision where you are with what you have.
I leave you with the words of two great decision makers, William James and Thomas Edison. William James suggested that, compared to what we should be, we make use of only a tiny fraction of our physical and mental resources. Declaring this concept broad, the human individual to this day lives well below his limits. It has powers of all kinds that it does not usually manage to use.
Years later, Thomas Edison said, and I quote:
If we do all the things we are capable of doing, we will literally be amazed.
By making a simple decision, the greatest minds of the past are at your disposal. You can literally learn how to turn your wildest dreams into reality.
Use this valuable information and recognize the greatness that exists in you. You have unlimited resources of potential and a capacity waiting to be developed. Start today because there has never been a better time other than the present. Be everything you are capable of.